please help me, my mom hates me =[[[?
i’ve been cheering since 7th grade and i used to LOVE it, its all i wanted to do and all i ever did. i realllly loved it until my sophomore year on competitive when personal attacks by the coach led me to hate myself and start cutting and eventually i became bulimic, it was only bulimic tendencies and stuff though bec it wasnt until my junior year that it god bad, around cheerleading season when i felt that i wasn’t good enough on the team and i became full blown bulimic, lost 35 lbs and could hardly move…in the middle of the season i finally pulled myseld out of the rounds and went to a psychiatrist at a childrens hospital (took days to convince my mom that i needed help and wasnt just trying to hurt her)……so i’m still dealing with that although i’m much better.
i don’t enjoy cheerleading at all anymore, all its done is hurt me and i can’t do it anymore, i wrote my mom a letter and told her how i feel and that i just want to move on and be happy, she ripped it up and had a psychotic breakdown telling me i was going to be a f***ing loser and then she proceeded to take my car, my friends, and grounded me for 4 months until the season is over. then she took all the pictures of me in our house down and cried in her bedroom. later she told me when i go away to college next year she hopes i never come back bec she will never be able to forgive me for not trying out.
so she made me feel bad enough and i went to the second day of tryouts today and i’m miserable, i came home crying and she ignored me………i don’t want to do it and the herniated disc in my back hurts…
what should i do?
tell ur coach to f*** off and quit cheerleading. your mom a has to realize that if cheerleading nearly destroyed you, you have to stop. dont be bulimic, eat right.
if she thinks that your a f***ing loser, then its her problem, not your’s. let her ignore you, she’ll come around. i used to cut myself too, never told anyone. well until now, but that doens’t matter. cutting yourself hurts, not physically, but mentally. think about it, youve been driven as far as to hurt yourself, now i cut when i realize how fake everyone around me is and how some people just really hate me, but its just our way of letting out. try not to show it hide it. if yoiur back hurts then you really should ewat right and wait till it gets better or see a doctor, letting it go on will just ruin you, if your mom doesnt want to see you again then fine, she must be like the worst mother in the world.
| Nov 10, 2009
my mom hates me too
Willihelm | Nov 10, 2009
and your dad, talk to him. im sorry, i wouldent know what to do
? | Nov 10, 2009
i would try to tlk to her
virginia | Nov 10, 2009
Go back to the psychiatrist. You don’t need to tell your mom, get a friend from school to drive you there if you need to. Talk to the psychiatrist about all of this; (s)he will be able to at least point you to someone who can help you out. It sounds like your mom has some problems of her own.
Ryan | Nov 10, 2009
Do what makes you feel alive and whole. Ignore your mother, I mean listen to her and such. But do what you love (within reason) Your mother is either a $#$@%@# or she is upset she did not have the teenage life you have. If your mother talks down to you ignore her and be the better person. Do what makes you feel alive. Just be smart about it.
Be a cheerleader do your best, but make sure you do your school work too. Life after high school is a lot different and well you will have less friends and cheerleading wont matter.
Matthew M | Nov 10, 2009
omg, i’m really sorry, and i really hope some improvements comes in your life. (:
but honestly, what i would do is just get the f*ck outta that house! run away, or secretly move into your aunt/uncles, grandparents, or even a close friends’ house.
Breanna | Nov 10, 2009
aaaw my mom can’t stand me in a way either. I feel soo bad for you. I used to do cheerleading in 5th grade and that was the only year i did it becuase my coach said i wasn’t in this routine and made me sit on the side by Myself and watch them practice. SO yeah, I would just tell her that becuase of a bad experience with one of my coaches, I no longer wish to do it anymore.
mrs.nickjonas | Nov 10, 2009
Do what makes you happy. If your old enough to be going to college your old enough to stand up to your mom. Tell her that it hurts you and your not going to do it anymore and if she doesn’t like it to bad.
Cait | Nov 10, 2009
I don’t know what’s funnier to be honest:
You taking the time to write this, or me taking the time to answer.
If this is a joke, you done a great job.
If this is real.. then read the following:
Tell your mother that you’re not into cheer leading anymore, and now it bugs you. Tell her that it is taking time from your school work. Say that you have the right to choose what’s best for you, and that you choose to stop, and move on with your life. Tell her not to be mad, and remind her that your grades are good (assuming they are). Also inform her of you going through "changes." Tell her that now you find the right way that you want to go to.
Peace out.
Anwar | Nov 10, 2009
wow woman as if u didn’t have enough issues..Honestly i feel bad for u. its not ur fault at all ur mom needs to grow up and be a flipping mom that means she needs to love u unconditionally no matter what and always be there for u..the only advice i have is get a councilor for u and ur mom that the only way to help u! good luck
Jenny | Nov 10, 2009
Your Mom just not want you to give up on things,but she is going about it the wrong way.You do what you want as you are the one who has to deal with your decisions if they are good or bad.You have to learn lessons in life and they may not all be good ones.Tell your Mom that you are sorry if you let her down but you feel cheer leading is not want you want in your life anymore and you want better things in life.She will come to her senses one day when you make her very proud in the choice that you made.You will never be happy in doing something that you don’t want to do.
mamaw2305 | Nov 10, 2009
your mom has too many control issues grrr friend
you need to go to her and find out the feeling behind why she is acting like this
don’t be rude or disrespectful
in a way it sounds to me that she wants you to make something of yourself and not be a bum
sometimes parents try to live their life through their kids and i hope it is not the case here
bogey | Nov 10, 2009
WOW…
umm, there’s honestly nothing that you can do.
I know that sounds like I’m being mean, but my mom
is very similar to that. I’ve cried, yelled, begged her
to talk to me..Etc I can’t change her, and you can’t
change your mom.
Another thing I want to add is, don’t hate cheerleading
just because of what happened.
This isn’t because of cheerleading, it’s about a much
bigger problem. Fix that problem, but don’t start hating
cheerleading because of it.
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